Nothing you can say or write will change it. If and when people are ready, they will have kids. Unmentioned, by the way is the negative marriage situation. Fatherless children, not your objective? Good luck. No man wants kids to support while his ex dates and screws around as she pleases, and that's pretty much the way it is.
No, I'm not gunning for moral equivalency. I'm saying, everyone seems concerned, but of course, not enough to change the stupid laws men are faced with in the event of a failed marriage, not enough to give up a career, not enough to try staying married. I'm saying you can't change it.
If your Ex wife 'dates and screws around as she pleases' as you are alleging, then that makes her a very irresponsible mother - That still does not exempt YOU from being a good father and looking after your children unless, in your mind, you believe they are 'her' children and therefore her headache. Not yours. And unless in your mind your condition for looking after your own children is that she must stay married to you and put up with you regardless of whether you get along or not. There is a reason divorces happen. Children should not have to suffer as a result of that. Many men punish their own children because they are unable to punish the ex wife for leaving them ... for getting away. If they were happy it's over then the desire to punish should not exist, much less punishing your own children, unless you are sure they are NOT your children to begin with. That still won't be an excuse to hurt them but at least you won't be responsible for financially supporting them.
Countless mothers look after their children all the time and especially when irresponsible fathers neglect and abandon their own children. They don't say 'to hell with the children' I am not going to look after them or support them while my Ex (their dad) 'dates and screws around as he pleases' ... that's a LAME excuse for not looking after your own children. Irresponsible fathers have deep seated 'mommy ' issues from their own childhood and upbringing and they need to get their heads checked. Childhood Trauma is not a legitimate excuse to punish your own children and repeat the cycle of neglect and abuse in their lives that you may have gone through.
Nothing you can say or write will change it. If and when people are ready, they will have kids. Unmentioned, by the way is the negative marriage situation. Fatherless children, not your objective? Good luck. No man wants kids to support while his ex dates and screws around as she pleases, and that's pretty much the way it is.
So, the moral equivalency means we should invade Canada, kill their people, and steal their children? Until we are "ready" of course.
No, I'm not gunning for moral equivalency. I'm saying, everyone seems concerned, but of course, not enough to change the stupid laws men are faced with in the event of a failed marriage, not enough to give up a career, not enough to try staying married. I'm saying you can't change it.
If your Ex wife 'dates and screws around as she pleases' as you are alleging, then that makes her a very irresponsible mother - That still does not exempt YOU from being a good father and looking after your children unless, in your mind, you believe they are 'her' children and therefore her headache. Not yours. And unless in your mind your condition for looking after your own children is that she must stay married to you and put up with you regardless of whether you get along or not. There is a reason divorces happen. Children should not have to suffer as a result of that. Many men punish their own children because they are unable to punish the ex wife for leaving them ... for getting away. If they were happy it's over then the desire to punish should not exist, much less punishing your own children, unless you are sure they are NOT your children to begin with. That still won't be an excuse to hurt them but at least you won't be responsible for financially supporting them.
Countless mothers look after their children all the time and especially when irresponsible fathers neglect and abandon their own children. They don't say 'to hell with the children' I am not going to look after them or support them while my Ex (their dad) 'dates and screws around as he pleases' ... that's a LAME excuse for not looking after your own children. Irresponsible fathers have deep seated 'mommy ' issues from their own childhood and upbringing and they need to get their heads checked. Childhood Trauma is not a legitimate excuse to punish your own children and repeat the cycle of neglect and abuse in their lives that you may have gone through.