Parental alienation is emotional abuse that harms children, says Dr. Jennifer Harman and Edward Kruk. They call for urgent legal reforms to recognize and prevent this widespread form of child abuse.
This is scary because it puts the child and parent being accused in a no win situation. The court will not listen to the child because they think they are being coerced. The court will listen to the accuser and opt for equal parenting time or the accused parent will lose custody if the child doesn’t cooperate. The real concern here is when the accused parent loses custody the accuser now has the child to themself. But, in an abusive situation that wasn’t their goal in the first place. The goal was control. It leaves the child in a situation where they may be potentially harmed. I think what obviously is lacking in many court cases is common sense and looking at all aspects. Did the teachers file reports with CPS? Did the child go to a school counselor? Is the child old enough to express their thoughts? Is there a history of domestic abuse where it may not be alienation but rather a child fearing the abuser? Were both parents active participants in raising them or did something trigger this alienation accusation? Is there also financial abuse by the accuser? What reunification techniques were used? Were medically trained drs used for reunification or therapy or was it a camp or unqualified therapist locking a child in a room for three hours. Yes, I agree that this situation can lead to depression and relationship issues for children that have gone thru this. Thats exactly why the courts have to be extra careful to protect these children. Remember, when this is all said and done the parent has to put these kids together, try to fix it so they can heal and be productive members of society.
The key here is; “ The real concern here is when the accused parent loses custody the accuser now has the child to themself.” This gives that parent time to install false memories, shared persecutory delusions, thus turning the child against the Target Parent.
And where do you account for the vicious “exes” who rant, rave, accuse, badmouth, & lie about the other parent, trying to make the child hate that parent. That is very common & seems to be a method to employ when custody issues are at stake. The children are being used as weapons.
Agreed. They brainwash kids using false memories (share persecutory delusions) against the Target Parent. Then it will proceed to affect the next six generations to come.
It gives us something to talk about. And it allows the argument to properly focus. I asked for the best argument for PA. I guess were' going with this one. Now I have something to present to those with differing opinions. They can point to what paragraph, line, and footnote(s) they disagree with.
I would argue that depression could also stem from a child speaking out to protect themselves and no one listening. They are allowing kids to undergo torturous hours of therapy where the kid is not the issue it’s the system. Real life example: parent trying to gain full custody claiming they are being alienated calls child piece of shit in front of therapist. Therapist tells child it is their problem because they need to learn to be more understanding and open to relationship. Therapist blames other parent because they say they need to promote the relationship more.
Now parent accused of alienation is stuck between a rock and a hard place. They tell their kid they aren’t a piece of shit but still at same time needs to say well you need to accept being treated this way. But, if you ever treat someone else this way you will be in trouble. Basically, you have to tell your kid to suck it up as you financially bleed and lose everything in court to protect them. But, the real outcome is the child is sucking it up to protect you from being arrested.
This is scary because it puts the child and parent being accused in a no win situation. The court will not listen to the child because they think they are being coerced. The court will listen to the accuser and opt for equal parenting time or the accused parent will lose custody if the child doesn’t cooperate. The real concern here is when the accused parent loses custody the accuser now has the child to themself. But, in an abusive situation that wasn’t their goal in the first place. The goal was control. It leaves the child in a situation where they may be potentially harmed. I think what obviously is lacking in many court cases is common sense and looking at all aspects. Did the teachers file reports with CPS? Did the child go to a school counselor? Is the child old enough to express their thoughts? Is there a history of domestic abuse where it may not be alienation but rather a child fearing the abuser? Were both parents active participants in raising them or did something trigger this alienation accusation? Is there also financial abuse by the accuser? What reunification techniques were used? Were medically trained drs used for reunification or therapy or was it a camp or unqualified therapist locking a child in a room for three hours. Yes, I agree that this situation can lead to depression and relationship issues for children that have gone thru this. Thats exactly why the courts have to be extra careful to protect these children. Remember, when this is all said and done the parent has to put these kids together, try to fix it so they can heal and be productive members of society.
Interesting perspective.
The key here is; “ The real concern here is when the accused parent loses custody the accuser now has the child to themself.” This gives that parent time to install false memories, shared persecutory delusions, thus turning the child against the Target Parent.
And where do you account for the vicious “exes” who rant, rave, accuse, badmouth, & lie about the other parent, trying to make the child hate that parent. That is very common & seems to be a method to employ when custody issues are at stake. The children are being used as weapons.
Agreed. They brainwash kids using false memories (share persecutory delusions) against the Target Parent. Then it will proceed to affect the next six generations to come.
Peer reviewed by their peers. That's not really peer reviewed. Others who propagate PA are the ones reviewing it. This is a bogus concept.
It gives us something to talk about. And it allows the argument to properly focus. I asked for the best argument for PA. I guess were' going with this one. Now I have something to present to those with differing opinions. They can point to what paragraph, line, and footnote(s) they disagree with.
Not until you experience PA will you completely understand it.
I would argue that depression could also stem from a child speaking out to protect themselves and no one listening. They are allowing kids to undergo torturous hours of therapy where the kid is not the issue it’s the system. Real life example: parent trying to gain full custody claiming they are being alienated calls child piece of shit in front of therapist. Therapist tells child it is their problem because they need to learn to be more understanding and open to relationship. Therapist blames other parent because they say they need to promote the relationship more.
Now parent accused of alienation is stuck between a rock and a hard place. They tell their kid they aren’t a piece of shit but still at same time needs to say well you need to accept being treated this way. But, if you ever treat someone else this way you will be in trouble. Basically, you have to tell your kid to suck it up as you financially bleed and lose everything in court to protect them. But, the real outcome is the child is sucking it up to protect you from being arrested.